They’ve Graduated! What Next?

 They’ve Graduated! What Next? by Paula Lowther

Having a child with a developmental disability is a journey many of us were not prepared to take. ”On the job learning” becomes the norm through each stage of our precious children’s lives. We read, take classes, meet other parents, join Facebook Groups, talk to therapists, teachers and school counselors, and surf the internet immersing ourselves in self-education. If we’ve done our homework, we know that federal regulations will permit a child with a disability to stay in public education until the end of the school year in which the child reaches the age of 22 (https://ed.sc.gov). This gives the family more time to plan and prepare. This also needs to be tailored to the needs and desires of the child. 

We are fortunate in South Carolina, as there are two model collegiate programs designed for young adults with special needs, one of which is located right in York County at Winthrop University: WinthropLife. The other is the ClemsonLife program at Clemson University. Both programs meet the requirements to be a federally designated Comprehensive Transition Program, which translates to dollars for school through grants and financial aid. Each of the programs have detailed web sites where they share all you need to know about your child’s eligibility. 

Not all children are eligible or interested in such programs, though. What then? Be sure to familiarize yourself with the South Carolina Department of Disabilities and Special Needs website. There is tons of information there, including a page for the Home and Community Based Services waiver program. Did you know that prior to 1981, institutionalization was the only program available, because there were no services available in the community at that time. While we are thankful for the array of services and projects our children can participate in at this time in York County, it is not a perfect situation.  In this post-COVID era, staff shortages are common in the caregiving workforce, which creates a gap in care. There is much to be done in growing this workforce, and perhaps training programs can be cultivated for high school students who may be interested in these roles. Regardless, be sure to get your child enrolled for services by calling 1-800-289-7012 to begin the process.  

Some states have programs where family members can be paid caregivers for their loved ones. Sadly, the Carolinas have not joined their ranks. Currently the twelve states include Colorado, Kentucky, Maine, Minnesota, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Dakota, Oregon, Texas, Utah, Vermont, and Wisconsin. There has never been a more opportune time for parents to become politically active on behalf of their children. Learn who your state legislators are, and write, call, and ask for an audience to present your case and petition for expansion of services.

Creativity is key as you brainstorm ways to meet the needs of your young adults. Pooling resources and services with other parents, seeking out HUD housing, and the creation of innovative models that may combine elder-care and young adults with special needs- Get creative! People need not live in isolated “mono-chromatic” communities.  UNC Center for Excellence in Community Mental Health is creating a “Tiny Home Village” for those with mental health issues. 

https://www.med.unc.edu/psych/cecmh/services/community-services/tiny-homes-village/

This is just one example of creativity at work in the Carolinas. Another is the HOPE-NC organization, https://www.hopenorthcarolina.org  whose mission statement is “Creating inclusive communities where people of all abilities and ages experience a sense of belonging through community reimagined."

In South Carolina, there are currently multiple providers of residential services, including supportive and independent living offering different levels of support. Your local Adult Enrichment Center (AEC) can provide job training services. As a parent or caregiver, knock on doors and advocate for your young adult, and create opportunities at places of service that are open to hiring those with developmental disabilities. Our family secured positions for our daughter at both Harris Teeter, and then Publix. She was collectively employed at these two stores for seven years, before being trained for a job at the Humane Society of Kershaw County where she was the “Cat Lady!” She was responsible for the cat room, cleaning litterboxes, feeding and loving her four-legged wards.

SC Public Radio has a 4-minute piece on the push for disability housing communities in SC amid limited options. That was aired in March of this year. Here is the link: https://www.southcarolinapublicradio.org/sc-news/2023-03-07/renewed-push-for-disability-housing-communities-in-sc-amid-limited-options

The possibilities are endless, but it will take collaboration, creativity and innovation. Are you up for it?

List of resources:

ClemsonLife Program- https://www.clemson.edu/education/programs/programs/culife

Winthrop Life Program- https://www.winthrop.edu/coe/winthroplife/

SC Dept of Education- https://ed.sc.gov

SC Department of Disabilities and Special Needs- https://ddsn.sc.gov

UNC Center for Excellence in Community Mental Health- Tiny Homes Village- https://www.med.unc.edu/psych/cecmh/services/community-services/tiny-homes-village/

HOPE-NC- https://www.hopenorthcarolina.org

SC Adult Enrichment Centers- Day programs and job training services plus!- https://www.adultenrichmentcenters.org/about/

Paula Lowther is a nurse practitioner, writer, and patient safety advocate currently based out of Fort Mill, South Carolina and is the mother of an adult daughter with special needs, and a typical young adult daughter.

Creating inclusive communities where people of all abilities and ages experience a sense of belonging 

COMMUNITY REIM

https://www.winthrop.edu/coe/winthroplife/

https://www.clemson.edu/education/programs/programs/culife

New Swag Coming SOON!

 We are excited to announce that we have ordered more of the ORIGINAL "I have a heart for Miracle Park" t-shirts that everyone loves! We will have navy and gray as well as a new light blue!

We will also have sweatshirts and hoodies with this design! We will have a FEW of these ready to purchase, and then we will take pre-orders.

We have NEW water bottles: the trendy 40 oz tumbler with handle and a design with kids of all abilities in mind, that can use either a straw or a spout!

We also plan to have new hats with leather patches!! The hope is to have all of this new gear available at the first fall Miracle League game on Saturday, September 9th!

Summer Fun!

Wow! What a GREAT start to the summer! We have instituted several new programs this summer and have served 134 members of our community in new and exciting ways - and we're only halfway through the summer! Read below to see all about our new programs:

Mosaics at Miracle: Participants came 4 weeks in a row to make different themed mosaic creations based on different themes. We had 9 participants each week. They enjoyed making mosaics of animals, beach scenes, Christmas scenes, and one week of free choice mosaics.

Dig and Discover: Eleven participants came to the park to dig and find raw rocks and minerals and then have them tumbled and polished to discover new treasures! They got to make and crack geodes, and dig for dinosaur fossils!

Fun Fridays: A new program for older teens and adults had 22 participants playing bingo in June! For July the plan is to do Music Bingo, and in August, they will have Trivia!

Salad Day with Miracle Park partners Growing Joy: We got together to sing and enjoy some freshly harvested aquaponic lettuce grown fresh by some of our favorite friends in the TR program when they went on a field trip to Growing Joy Farm! A good time was had by all, even in the rain!

Tea Time! 22 participants came to High Tea at the park. What a fancy, fun time complete with fancy table cloths, tea, finger foods, fancy hats, and, of course, teddy bears!

Sensory-Friendly Playtime: Perhaps our most needed and most popular new program so far! We had 52 participants at these two sessions! Miracle Park is for ALL, and we like to include everyone, but sometimes inclusion can look differently! In order to include some of our friends, we need to create protected spaces for them. Often times our beloved park is so crowded that it is too overstimulating for some of our friends, so we decided to close the playground for two short periods in order to give them the space they need to be able to enjoy our facilities. Our community was GREAT about this! While we did advertise on our sign and social media, inevitably, some people came to play and did not know that the playground area of the park was closed to the public. These families respected the need for some friends to need a smaller setting to enjoy the playground. THIS is inclusion!  

Stay tuned for an update at the end of summer on other new programs!

Thanks for supporting Miracle Park! If you'd like to donate to help aid our expansion and continued commitment to creating a place for EVERYONE to BELONG - donate on our website: miracleparkrockhill.com

PRT - David Boone Advisory Award

 Our Executive Team was recently honored by The City of Rock Hill's Parks, Recreation, and Tourism Department at their annual Volunteer Dinner. This is what they had to say about our team:

This committee and its partners has imagined, fundraised, developed and built Miracle Park phase one which opened in September of 2021. In 2022, they have continued to fundraise and plan for phase two. They have put their hearts, soul and hard work into making Miracle Park not only a dream but a reality that has become a destination for families, seniors and youth of all abilities.

In 2016, one of these members traveled to Greenville to watch his nephew play in a Miracle League game. That was the inspiration he needed to come back and discuss with family and friends his idea of building a miracle field in Rock Hill. Having grown up playing sports and now with his children being involved in sports he knew Rock Hill needed a field for athletes of all abilities to play. It didn’t take long for them to begin the implementation of this idea. Connections were made and others jumped at the chance to be involved in something so great. A committee was formed…a builder, a developer, a fundraiser, community leaders…a meeting was held with York County disabilities foundation members, sports commission members, city staff members, more community leaders and from there, the possibilities continued. The idea was brought forth to put the field on property that already held a city park. Additionally, Winthrop University was approached about the adjacent property. Through many discussions and meetings and nearly a year later, a public/ private partnership was formed.

Years later and millions of dollars raised, this field became not just a field but an entire park. Through so many efforts, the first phase included an all-inclusive playground with innovative play equipment, restrooms, an office and concessions building, a multi-purpose field and of course the Miracle Field. This group made sure to go beyond the norm and complete the requirements needed to be awarded universal design standards. The second and third phases are being planned and will be just as exciting as the first.

The park has thousand of visitors a month. From Miracle League, Benji Ball, youth softball games, playground time, story time, the Book Mobile, kite flying, kickball, many more events and programs the park is busting at the seams. If you have been there, you know. What a wonderful sight!!

This committee has worked tirelessly to host events and fundraisers to benefit the park. They have been instrumental in getting the community involved throughout the whole process. Their dedication and time has been one that has built a place where everyone belongs and no matter your ability…you have a place to play.

I’d like to present the David Boone Advisory Award to the Miracle Park Executive Committee. This committee includes David Williams, Alice Davis, Warren Norman, Kennedi Christopher, Kylie Carroll, John Taylor, Michelle Schaffer, Sig Huitt and Jack Leitner.

We are very thankful to the PRT team for all they do for Miracle Park and are honored to accept this award!

Seeking Guardianship for an Individual with Disabilities

My husband was a fierce and tireless advocate for people with disabilities. A former middle-

school journalism and English teacher, his life’s trajectory changed when daughter Hannah was

born in 1976 with Down Syndrome. He began employment with Easter Seals Colorado, and

later became the executive director at the ARC of Jefferson County, Colorado. Among other

things, he promoted a “least restrictive environment” model for people with developmental

disabilities where the individual, with advice from loved ones and advocates, could make their

own life decisions. This model carried over to our daughter, adopted from China at age 7, when

we realized that she, too, had significant developmental disabilities.

Before she turned 18, we had healthcare and financial powers of attorney documents drafted

as a safety net. We avoided full guardianship out of respect for the “least restrictive

environment” model. This worked well, until behavioral health issues began to impair her

ability to remain safe. She became impulsive, defiant, and belligerent. She demonstrated to us

in clear fashion that she was not capable of making safe decisions. Her mental health and her

cognitive and intellectual disabilities were on a collision course that would take her down a very

dangerous path if left to her own devices.

Now in her twenties, my husband and I mulled over the next steps. Tragically, he died

unexpectedly in October 2021. Our world turned upside down, and for our fragile daughter it

was full blown chaos. Through the grief and aftermath of an untimely death, the surviving

children and I thought it was time to seek full guardianship for her and we all felt that dad

would agree. I made the call to our family attorney.

I learned that guardianship is not granted based on fears of what may happen. It must be

demonstrated that she is an incapacitated adult. This following excerpt was taken from the

sccourts.org website:

In South Carolina, an incapacitated person is someone who is impaired due to mental

illness, developmental disability, physical illness or disability, advanced age, chronic use

of drugs or alcohol, or other causes. Just because an individual makes bad decisions or

has a disability does not necessarily mean that he or she is an incapacitated person. See

S.C. Code Ann. § 62-5-101 at http://scstatehouse.gov/code/t62c005.php.

It goes on further to differentiate between an incapacitated person and one with poor

judgement:

An incapacitated person is unable to make responsible decisions about his or her well-

being. A person with poor judgment has the ability to make responsible decisions but

chooses not to do so. Sometimes it may be difficult to understand the reasons for the

poor decisions, which is why the Probate Court relies on the opinions of medical

examiners.

Based on these definitions, I am currently seeking guardianship for her now. I started the

process not long after my husband’s passing, only to table it when our daughter’s mental health

appeared to improve. This was short lived, and the process of seeking guardianship is in active

stages at this time. Letters are being sent by the court to her siblings (to assure the court that

they are knowledgeable, and in case anyone wants to contest the petition) as we prepare for

medical and psychological examinations mandated by the court. She is safe in a “host home”

about an hour from me. The following are questions I had to answer for the guardianship

petition… do I believe she should retain the legal rights for any of the following:

1. Make end-of-life decisions

2. Participate in social and religious activities

3. Vote

4. Consent to or refuse educational services

5. Contract for marriage

6. File for divorce

7. Travel independently

8. Be employed without the consent of a guardian

9. Operate a vehicle

Each element was carefully considered as to what the minimum restrictions would be in order to keep

her safe yet give her the autonomy to make some major decisions in her life. As the retired one in our

family, my husband was at the helm of our daughter’s life-planning activities while I maintained my full-

time job. Since his passing, I’ve been on a crash course of educating myself about programs, systems,

resources and social security. As your loved one with a disability is growing toward adulthood, think

about how to approach this process for them, and for you. It is not a “one size fits all” solution, and not

all those with disabilities will need full guardianship. There are pages of state-specific guardianship

information on the web. Do your homework. Speak to others who have walked through the process and

come to a decision that best fits the needs of your loved one. The process of life planning and

guardianship should be easily and readily available to all impacted families. 

Written and submitted by Paula Lowther.

Paula is a nurse practitioner with more than 30 years experience in the field, including camp nursing for adults and children with disabilities She is currently expanding her resume to include content writing for the healthcare industry. She has 2 young adult daughters, and is the bonus mom for her husband, Todd’s 3 adult children. She resides in Fort Mill with her menagerie of dogs, cats and birds.